Yea, Hannah Montana. I know, she's so "tween" but I have a tween so I need to be aware of what her favorite celebs are doing.
You see, I'm cursed with being an avid follower of TMZ and Perezhilton - two celeb-doings blogs that pretty much cover every antic performed by the famous. So I know these antics before my tweenie does. It's up to me to clean up the explanations when she comes to me with, "Jamie Lynn is pregnant."
Yes, these things are a fact of life. But it's my choice to explain procreation to my child, and all the intricate details, on my terms - not on Britney's little sister's terms. It's annoying. Yes, she made a mistake and she's making the right choice in having her baby. But I don't like that her actions are being glorified as acceptable to young minds. She's still an underage mother, albeit a rich one - that definitely changes the equation.
Back to Miley Cyrus. Here we have a "Christian" girl posing in sexy photos that are being posted all over MySpace. I've heard a bundle of excuses - one of which "she's just discovering her sexuality." Wow, that's funny because racy pics don't compute with said Christian upbringing. This child, and she is a child, has professed to being very concerned with being a good role model for her fans. She's starting to fail miserably.
Miley needs some parental control and quick. She's not only making a spectacle of herself but is failing miserably in the backpedaling she's now trying to do with the Annie Leibovitz photos in Vanity Fair. How can she profess to be outraged at the sexy images when one week previous she was posting suggestive pictures on the web, for free? Hello! It doesn't compute.
I'm not knocking teen discovery but in this day and age of the Internet, these young stars need to exercise some serious judgment. And if they can't do that, then their parents must keep track of their actions. It's like latch-key Internet kids lacking appropriate supervision.
And that's what it is - Miley needs some serious supervision.
Her life is under a microscope and I'm sure that's hard. However, she (and her family) chose that life. With it comes a responsibility for appropriate behavior. She's still a kid, still underage, and still making horrible choices - which is a typical kid thing to do.
Hello Miley's parents? Wake up and take care of your kid. Before she ends up like another Britney or Lindsay.
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Monday, April 21, 2008
Middle school girls tape beating
And we have another beating showing up on line.
This time, a group of middle school girls have taped the brutal beating of a classmate and posted it on the internet for all to see. The difference between this taping and the one earlier this month is the age of the kids involved. This group ranges in age from 12-14, too young for anything more than a grounding and a slap on the wrist. See the story here:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/04/19/girl.beating.ap/index.html#cnnSTCVideo
I think we, as parents, need to take a very close look at our children. This very same thing can happen to our own kids. They could be the participant or the victim. They could be the planner or the observer. Any one of them could be on the receiving end of violence when outside of our supervision.
In an earlier post, I said we need to teach our children about accountability. We also need to teach them about consequence. Cause and effect. You do this - punishment equals this. Seems an easy concept, one many of us grew up with. Why are we having such a hard time instilling this in our own children?
I think part of it begins with not completely enforcing punishment. Totally. Our authority is lessened every time we parents cave in and allow the computer time, phone use, or Ipod to come out despite our edict preventing the use of these items due to punishment. When the hammer comes down, it needs to stay down.
I also believe our kids don't fear and respect us. As a child, even as a young adult, I was afraid to disappoint my parents. I had and have wonderful, supportive parents who were strong authority figures. I made every effort not to disappoint them.
I look at my own tweenage daughter and I see a sweetheart, when she gets her way. Normal enough reaction from a child. But I detect an underlying sense of entitlement, just as I do in my 18-year old stepdaughter. I see children willing to argue their point, believing they are entirely equal and able to make decisions, come hell or high water or right or wrong. I see children that have been allowed to express their views openly and as a result, completely disregarding the very possibility that someone else might have that right.
This entitlement will be their downfall. And we as parents have had a hand in it.
What makes children broadcast a violent crime against another? What makes someone relish, as the tender age of 12, the pain of another? I can't imagine. I'm at a loss.
I will be speaking to my daughter about this. I think our talk will begin with consequence.
This time, a group of middle school girls have taped the brutal beating of a classmate and posted it on the internet for all to see. The difference between this taping and the one earlier this month is the age of the kids involved. This group ranges in age from 12-14, too young for anything more than a grounding and a slap on the wrist. See the story here:
http://www.cnn.com/2008/CRIME/04/19/girl.beating.ap/index.html#cnnSTCVideo
I think we, as parents, need to take a very close look at our children. This very same thing can happen to our own kids. They could be the participant or the victim. They could be the planner or the observer. Any one of them could be on the receiving end of violence when outside of our supervision.
In an earlier post, I said we need to teach our children about accountability. We also need to teach them about consequence. Cause and effect. You do this - punishment equals this. Seems an easy concept, one many of us grew up with. Why are we having such a hard time instilling this in our own children?
I think part of it begins with not completely enforcing punishment. Totally. Our authority is lessened every time we parents cave in and allow the computer time, phone use, or Ipod to come out despite our edict preventing the use of these items due to punishment. When the hammer comes down, it needs to stay down.
I also believe our kids don't fear and respect us. As a child, even as a young adult, I was afraid to disappoint my parents. I had and have wonderful, supportive parents who were strong authority figures. I made every effort not to disappoint them.
I look at my own tweenage daughter and I see a sweetheart, when she gets her way. Normal enough reaction from a child. But I detect an underlying sense of entitlement, just as I do in my 18-year old stepdaughter. I see children willing to argue their point, believing they are entirely equal and able to make decisions, come hell or high water or right or wrong. I see children that have been allowed to express their views openly and as a result, completely disregarding the very possibility that someone else might have that right.
This entitlement will be their downfall. And we as parents have had a hand in it.
What makes children broadcast a violent crime against another? What makes someone relish, as the tender age of 12, the pain of another? I can't imagine. I'm at a loss.
I will be speaking to my daughter about this. I think our talk will begin with consequence.
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